Hi papa.. wish you could read this, Happy Fathers day

love you po so much and i miss you sooo much..

uwi kana ok po?!hehe I wish I could repay all the things

you've done to me..

happy fathers day http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zSx4hkKZCOo

Should children see or hear Their parents argue?

From my point of view Disagreements are natural, inevitable aspect of human relationships especially to a husband and wife. As intimacy within a relationship increases, so does the likelihood of disagreement. I grew up with my mother because my father should go to other country for our needs. Every time my father arrives I saw them confronting for sometimes, well as a child I'm afraid seeing them like that. Until, I turn 16 that was the time i thought that it's alright to see them having a disagreements than not seeing them. You can't have marriage without disagreement, but you can have marriage without argument, which is the confrontation of disagreement that i was thinking. Unfortunately, when two people don't confront the disagreements, their relationship stands a chance of never growing.

Children need to learn that arguments come with marriage. Then they need to learn the arguments don't destroy people. Finally, they need to learn how to engage in constructive disagreement with other people. If they don't learn this things from you, who are they going to learn them from?

I said children should hear some of your arguments. Obviously, their are certain topics children should not overhear their parents discussing, whether they are arguing or not. Then, too, if you want them to learn that arguments aren't necessarily destructive, you are responsible for conducting your arguments in a civilized, constructive manner. This doesn't necessarily mean that you don't raise your voices now and then, but it does mean that you don't slander or belittle one another. You should respect one another's points of view through active listening, look at options other than those you each brought to the discussion, and try to reach a win-win resolution.

Me as a before as a child i want to see my parents arguing because I want to make sure that everything is going to be alright. So It's probably best, in those situations, to reassure them that you are both alive and well and then send them from them room.